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How to minimize conflict with an ex-spouse while co-parenting

On Behalf of | May 13, 2021 | Family Law |

After the end of a relationship, it can be difficult to co-parent. You want to do what’s best for your children, but when you don’t get along with your spouse and have bad blood between you, it can make it difficult to agree on how to raise your kids together.

Fortunately, there are methods that you can use to reduce conflicts and help co-parent your children in a shared custody agreement as well. Here are three ideas that could help.

  1. Put the focus back on your children
  2. Set firm boundaries
  3. Know when to contact your attorney

Each of these ideas can help you move forward in a healthier co-parenting relationship.

  1. Put the focus back on your children

To start with, it’s time to put the focus back on your children. Instead of worrying about what happened in the past, start thinking about what you can do to make their lives better in the future. Don’t let your own personal biases and frustrations get in the way of a positive relationship with their other parent. Make decisions about what they can or cannot do based on their maturity levels and education, not on if you like the other parent or not.

  1. Set firm boundaries

Sometimes, parents don’t get along well but still need to co-parent. In this case, you do need to set firm boundaries. If the other parent tends to call to berate you or complain, put your foot down and require communication through text or allow calls to go to voicemail before returning them. Do what’s right for you while also making sure to keep track of, and document, any unnecessary behavior.

  1. Know when to contact your attorney

Finally, know when to contact your attorney. If the other parent isn’t taking steps to make co-parenting easier, then they’re part of the problem. If they continue to harass you or cause problems, talk to your attorney. These behaviors may need to be addressed by the court to help you move forward and to protect your children.

These are three things to think about when you’re co-parenting with your ex-spouse. Working on resolving your issues and setting boundaries can help you both be better co-parents.